RAISING LUMINARIES WINTER COLLECTIVE

Let's Get Together

Being on-call 24/7 to care for others is... a lot. This winter is your opportunity to stop spiraling, reorient your responsibilities, and reclaim your energy.

Join your fellow imperfect caregivers for up to 12 weekly drop0in gatherings, where nobody will judge you for not having everything figured out.

Work through tough challenges without taking yourself too seriously

Before the Incubator, I thought, “I can’t possibly carve out time for this.”

Now, I recognize that these kinds of thoughts mean you should be here.

The winter collective was designed specifically for people who feel like we’ve got too many other obligations to spend on others, and can’t possibly recharge or ground ourselves for a single moment.

You can take this moment. In fact – everything we do here is what you must do to show up for others without making things worse.

Alison L.

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RAISING LUMINARIES WORKSHOP

Winter Chapters

Our flexible 6 to 12-week collective works around your schedule, creating an excuse to pause, recenter, and refuel your energy between everyday demands for your time and attention.

You're invited to our weekly drop-in virtual gatherings, or connect with us in the 24/7 chat group if you prefer connection at your own pace.

WEEKS 1 & 2

resist hustle culture

Learn how to resist busywork among ceaseless demands for your attention and time

WEEKS 3 & 4

stop running on empty

Learn when to center (and de-center) yourself to care for those who need you

WEEKS 5 & 6

wrangle the chaos

Practice strategies to cut through procrastination, over-thinking, and tough decisions

WEEKS 7 & 8

let go of restrictions

Release outdated habits that keep you complicit in harming those you care for

WEEKS 9 & 10

rituals for repair

Engage in new ways to improve your relationships and support your community

WEEKS 11 & 12

protect your energy

Resist business as usual and protect your energy all year long

Life is like an escalator in our society. Once you get on, you have to ride all the way to the top. When we talked about chapter breaks, I had never connected that with the kyriarchy. Capitalism doesn’t allow for pauses. Creating a chapter break is an opportunity to say “No” to the kyriarchy.

It’s saying, “No, I’m going to stop here and change something.”

Rebecca B.

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2027 WINTER INCUBATOR

December 7 - February 26

Move at your own pace with the support of a small cohort of caregivers like you.

>> Register by November so we can flex our hangout dates to your schedule

“There’s something about the intimacy and the accountability that comes from connecting with others on this journey in weekly community-building sessions.

Some of what makes it special really is that it’s a commitment you can make for 6 weeks to go deep with a group of people who care passionately about raising families to transform the world we live in. And we can’t do it alone – this intimate community leads to transformation from thought to action.”

Rachel G.

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Upcoming Events

All events are 2 hours with 1-2 breaks in the middle.

For six weeks in the Winter Incubator, we cover a series of topics that build upon each other. Based on your availability and connection preferences, you’ll be assigned to a small cohort to discuss the topics for each chapter.

We would love it if you could join us for both sessions every week

But I also understand that our schedules can be chaotic, and you may have to miss one or more sessions.

Not to worry – remember that there is no such thing as ‘falling behind’ here. If you miss a discussion, we have multiple ways to get back in sync with the group:

A video channel where I’ll introduce the topics for each week’s discussion to tap into when you need it
A 24/7 chat group where we connect to contribute insights, questions, and ideas
Slides and bonus resources for quick reference in the member portal

If life seems to be coming at you too fast and you feel out of sync, remember that this work comes in cycles. Connect with us at your own pace this winter, take the tools you need, and remember that you can come back next year to revisit, expand, or dig deeper.

RAISING LUMINARIES CAREGIVER WORKSHOP

Winter Incubator Scheduling FAQ

How can I justify spending this much time on myself?!

These seasonal collectives aren’t for you. They’re to help you care for others without burning out and becoming someone else’s problem.
If you keep setting yourself on fire to keep others warm, you’ll end up a crispy mess.
If you keep running on empty, you’ll let people down in catastrophic ways.
You’re already causing damage that you don’t even know about yet. But it’s not too late to change course.
Whether it’s your kids, those you show up for, or others who follow in your footsteps – you’re leaving vulnerable people who rely on you to deal with the consequences of showing up to run on fumes.
Everything Raising Luminaries creates (particularly our seasonal collectives) is to help progressive caregivers stop harming those they care for under the guise of performative activism, saviorism, and martyrdom.
Stop raising incels. Stop prioritizing comfort over community well-being. Stop doing saviorism, martyrdom, and performative busywork. Stop ignorantly upholding the kyriarchy.
If you only want to join us for the appearance of getting your shit together, then this isn’t the space for you. But if you genuinely wish to reorient how you show up for others from the roots up, invest the time it takes to be the change you want to see in the world.

When is the Winter Incubator in session?

While you have access to the member portal and all resources all year round, we host drop-in gatherings and optional chat groups for 12 weeks every winter, starting in December and continuing through February.

Will this work with my schedule?

We host a virtual weekly drop-in gathering through the winter. Attendance is optional for those who would like to connect with the group.
We also host an asynchronous video chat group on Marco Polo during the 12 weeks the Incubator is in active session.
If you’d like additional time to chat, all members are welcome to reserve a space in our virtual Common Room at a time that works for you.

How much time will this take?

Life with kids can get chaotic; we all get sick, and many of our members are managing multiple disabilities.
Not only are you welcome to take what you need and leave the rest for next year (which you’ll be invited to at no cost) – you don’t need to wedge any live sessions into your schedule if you don’t have the time. Just drop in when you like to get the support you need.
While you’re invited to participate as little or as often as you like, you can also skip active sessions and join us again next year at no additional cost.

What if I fall behind or miss a gathering?

All of our gatherings are optional drop-in events. The concept of ‘missing’ a gathering doesn’t apply here.
We’re disrupting toxic hustle culture because scrambling to keep up, consume, and produce upholds the kyriarchy we’re fighting to dismantle.
But we’re not doing that here. With our cyclical approach to growth, there is no such thing as ‘falling behind’ in the Incubator.
Attending at least four of our live virtual gatherings may help you connect and develop supportive relationships. However, we also offer a 24/7 asynchronous chat group and written portal discussion threads for members who need accessibility support, play at a different pace, or can’t attend live gatherings.
We’ve designed the Winter Incubator specifically for overwhelmed caregivers. If you need to step away from active participation, you can defer to a future winter session at any time for no additional cost.

Will I have access after winter ends?

You’ll have online access to the winter portal and all downloadable bonus resources for as long as our portal exists.
Year-round access means you can download the discussion guides, guidebooks, and resource library materials at your own pace and access them forever.

Are live gatherings or chats recorded?

We don’t record our weekly drop-in sessions. Not worrying about being ‘observed’ helps our members share personal stories and challenges without feeling self-conscious.
If you’d like to leave personal messages in your cohort’s video chat group, these recordings last one year before being automatically deleted. You can remove your personal messages from the group anytime, no questions asked.
And at the end of the winter, we retire our videochat discussions to start fresh for our next session.

How do drop-in live gatherings work?

No need to perform, stay anything brilliant, or be charming. We have a ‘no itchy underpants’ rule where you’re encouraged to show up as you are, messy and wearing your coziest stained and threadbare pajamas.
We’re aiming for cozy and intimate conversations to get to know each other. Of course, our kids will interrupt us. We’ll make space for each other’s chaos, and our sessions are not recorded or shared beyond the group.
We use automatically generated live captions on Zoom. Unfortunately, we can’t afford a live ASL interpreter at this time.