2022 Parent Activist Accelerator

Our next collective runs July 11 through August 19

If we want to ignite the next generation of leaders, we've gotta be the change we want to see.

In a few short years, our kids will be grown. Somehow, we have to keep them alive, raise them to be courageous and kind, and maintain society long enough to keep humanity from imploding.

So how do we do ALL THAT with zero spare hours each day?

Raising Luminaries Parent Activist Collectives are virtual, seasonally-oriented 6-week experiments where radically progressive parents reflect, assess, and take action to make a laser-beam impact all year round.

Unlike single-issue workshops and online groups, we work together in small, private, interdependent cohorts to process & reflect, take accountability, and create specialized plans of action for the change we want to see.

We Are

We Do

We Get





Parents Who Just Won't Settle Down

What connects us is not how we identify, but our shared vision of a future where our kids can feel safe, inspired, and motivated to shape the world they want to live in.

We are a motley collective of community organizers, self-advocates, accomplices, coordinators, engineers, writers, dog walkers, social workers, librarians, volunteers, educators, troublemakers, care-workers, and circle keepers.

We're the folks who find creative ways to change the world through everyday actions in caring for our families, influencing our industries, and showing up for friends.

The world needs ALL KINDS of contributors who show up & make space for mutual aid and community interdependence. We could get up to such wonderful and weird cahoots together.

AAPI parent activist self-advocate


community organizer parent activism

Organizers & Volunteers

ally parent activism

Accomplices & Conspirators

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Let's Explore This Summer

Whether we're maintaining long-term initiatives or just figuring out our role in the revolution, we're all juggling pandemic-shocked kids, spinach recalls, and a bottomless inbox.

No wonder we're frazzled and distracted.

As we weave our days integrating parenting and activism, our exhaustion will lead to shortcuts, auto-pilot, and dangerous oversights. We need perspective and accountability buddies to ensure our actions, goals, and values align.

During the Summer Accelerator, we develop a self-check assessment & action plan that fits within our everyday parenting + activist practice to keep us from harming those who rely on us.

We show up for each other to listen, share tools and resources, and get the inspiration we need to prevent burnout and stay motivated - even when dinner is burning and the dog barfed on your pillow.

Using videos & transcripts, ridiculous discussion prompts, rollicking reflection activities & weekly live virtual hangouts, we'll support each other in setting realistic objectives and create specific, actionable steps tailored for our core values and abilities.

Motivation & Accountability

Radically Honest

We help each other let go of harmful assumptions, refine the core values that drive us to take action, and design accountability processes to integrate our parenting & activism initiatives.

Centering & Roles


We join forces against the self-sabotage of 'doing it all,' determine our unique collaboration styles, and identify who we center and work best with to make a deep, rippling impact.

Wayfinding & Resilience

A Lane

We gather perspectives on our path and generate response strategies & recovery plans for when our initiatives face setbacks, derailment, and disaster.

Service & Skillsets

Growing Into
Our Power

We help each other clarify and create the boundaries we need to reduce overwhelm and busywork - so we can maintain a high standard of get-it-done badassery.

Capacity & Reciprocity

Reality Check

We assess our bandwidth, adjust our pacing, learn how to ask & receive, and give each other permission to accept what we need to maintain long-term action without burning out.

Showing Up & Following Through

& Sustainability

We identify our fizzle-out kryptonite and create cycle action plans to get over the anxiety of launching and over the hump of following-through.

Let's show up for each other - and try this new thing together.


Collective Experiences

Your existence creates some wild opportunities for this world.
Own it.

Ashia Ray

Hi, friends!

I'm Ashia Ray (they or she), Head Custodian of Raising Luminaries. This here is my face.


I've never identified as a 'leader,' but oh hey, here I am, caring for our lovely Raising Luminaries community since 2014. And now I'm the boss of this space! I can do whatever I want! Whooppeeee!


And what I want to do is hold space for parents unwelcome in all-of-nothing spaces - multiracial, class migrants, nonbinary, 'but-you-don't-look-disabled'-disabled parents. And all the folks who have grown tired of moderate activism spaces but don't feel quite ready to lead a decolonizing salt march.


Leaders like you, who don't realize you've been lighting the path this whole time.

Questions & Concerns

FAQs & What-Ifs

How we do things differently here


While we’re still developing the rhythm and content of the Collectives, we’re centering caregivers who identify as parents (of any gender).


Families come in all kinds of constellations, so I hope to expand to other types of primary and secondary caregivers and educators as we gain more resources.


Any caregiver who parents is welcome – particularly folks who are often excluded from traditional social justice spaces through supremacist heirarchies and binary gatekeeping.


Members are expected to have a cursory understanding of systemic oppression (ex: oppression is systemic, and we are all responsible for dismantling it), have the self-awareness to be mindful of social power and our individual and group privilege.


If you’re not sure whether you are welcome in this space, join the waitlist and just let me know your hesitation so that I can provide more information.



Our 2022 Summer Collective starts July 11 and ends August 19th.


Enrollment opens June 17 and ends July 1, or when we hit max capacity of 6 members, whichever comes first.


If these dates don’t work for you – join the waitlist and I’ll let you know when future seasonal collectives are coming up. You can unsubscribe anytime.


Ideally you can attend a few of our weekly live hangouts – where we can connect in real-time and have deeper conversations guided by our weekly topics.


The rest of the materials for each week come in the form of video, articles, and podcasts that you can check out at your own pace.

To connect with other members, we’re using the Marco Polo sharecast & group chat, an asynchronous video messaging app.

Which means we can to watch, re-watch, and reply to each other at our own pace, from anywhere – and any time – whether you want to spend 5 minutes a day, or more – is up to you.


Our resources and reflection process are designed to be revisited each summer, or as needed to come back to and build upon what you’ve learned. So you’ll have lifetime access to the resources.


We’re gathering together because we feel like we’re constantly falling behind,  compelled to produce and go-go-go to uphold supremacy.


We’re not doing that here. There is no falling behind.


The only commitment we ask is to show up for each other and respond to the weekly topics in our asynchronous chat room – at your own pace. 


You’ll have year-round access to the resources and summer portal if you need to take a break and come back to it.

We’ll have six live hangouts, an ongoing asynchronous video group chat, and a comments section to start discussions each day.


So – plenty of different ways to connect.


So as long as you can respond and share feedback once a week in a format that’s accessible for you, that’s how we show up for each other.


You’ll have online access to the portal all year-round, for as long as it exists – that means access to the live hangout recordings, scaffolding resources, and reflection activities so you can enjoy them at your own pace.



Our live hangouts are deeply interactive and not designed for passive consumption. We have to max out each collective at 6 members to build strong, interdependent relationships between the group. 


I tailor the resources for each collective to be accessible for every member’s accessibility needs and individual goals.


We grow through developing relationships and building trust – so it’s vital each member has ample time to share and show up for each other in our live hangouts.


For folks who need an accountability check-in, we hang out on Zoom for 1-2 hours once weekly, for six weeks, to discuss the reflections of the week.

I record the sessions and will send private links for folks who missed the hangout or would like to review it.

We use automatically generated live captions on Zoom and I send members transcripts from the video after our hangout.

Unfortunately we can’t afford a live ASL interpreter at this time.

Collective members get:

> 5 weekly video messages to kick off reflection & action

> 6 Interactive action discovery workbooks

> Asynchronous voice, text, and video chat room to connect with members, share ideas, and ask questions

> 6 Guided live hangouts to reflect, process, and break down integrating activism and parenting easy steps

> 1-on-1 live collaboration & session with me (Ashia) to streamline & simplify your commitments and help you convert intention into action.

> 3 months access to our habit-stacking accountability challenge

> 1-month, 3-month, and 6-month accountability check in after the accelerator wraps up

> A certificate of badassery after following through on the commitments you create for yourself.

> Free access to the Luminary Brain Trust for 3 months.

> Year-round access to all the Summer Accelerator resources in our online portal for as long as the portal exists.


For a 6-week collective, the enrollment fee is priced at a sliding scale starting at $1400 all the way down to $400 for multiply-targeted folks experiencing financial hardship.


Investing in deep work guided by disabled BIPOC is one way we distribute power, hold ourselves accountable, and participate in interdependent economics.


Your enrollment fee allows me to create accessible resources that tie this collective together. 


Of course you can cobble together and create your own resources, coordinate accountability group meetings, and figure this out on your own – but knowing what to cover, in what order, and orchestrating trust-building for an entire group of people with varying accessibility needs on your own can be confusing and frustrating.


Our collectives are designed to carry us together through a relationship-building process, building upon each week from start to finish. So you don’t have to spend your scarce time, energy, and mental bandwidth figuring out how to do it yourself and facilitating group conflicts. 


The actual cost to keep the collective sustainable is $1400 for each member, and memberships below that price are limited.


Please read the full sliding scale guide to see if you qualify for a lower cost.



In the unlikely event that we’re WAY TOO POPULAR and get more than 6 members who want to join us, we can split a larger group into two smaller cohorts for live hangouts.


And you can always register now to save your spot, but then let me know if you’re willing to delay your membership until next year for anyone who needs to join us ASAP.


Most importantly – we need you to show up if you can to make this project a success so we can continue to offer it to folks in future years. So if you want to join us – DO IT!


If by our sixth week, you have engaged with the resources and reflections to the best of your ability, you’ve shown up to the live hangouts, and it’s still not for you, send me all of your completed discovery activities before the end of the collective, and I’ll send you a full refund.

Since there is such limited space in the incubator, I can’t offer refunds if you just don’t engage with the work or show up to the live hangouts, since that’s a limited space we can’t retroactively replace.

For more info, check out the full return policy.


The resources I provide for each member are designed to be accessed by a single person only.


If you’d like to join the collective with a friend or a group, create separate memberships for each individual.


If you can’t afford the cost of enrollment, that’s why I offer a sliding scale.


Sharing locked content is a violation of the terms & conditions (and it’s stealing).

Visit the enrollment page to register when enrollment opens at noon on June 17th and ends when alll the spots are taken.

If this experiment doesn’t work for you, get a full membership refund.

Learn more about refunds

Expendable income should not be the determining factor in whether we can access services, care, and community.

Learn more about pricing

Each seasonal collective is different because we tailor our discussions, resources, and plan of action around your schedule, values, challenges and goals.

Learn more about our process

By the end of this summer, you will

(probably not)

Reconcile with your long lost lover - Find the hat you lost in 1998 (the one with the flaps) - Significantly change the shape of your body or the number of limbs attached to it - Get rid of that rash - Get your kids to stop leaving wet towels on the floor - Convince your housemate to unball their socks before throwing them in the hamper - solve the energy crisis


You can be the leader your kids are proud to follow

Enrollment closes on July 1, 2022 at 11pm EST, or when we hit capacity – whichever happens first.

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