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Doing too much, for everybody - but don't know how to stop?
Juggling a super-human amount of tasks and responsibilities?
Desperately need a break - but have nobody to pick up the slack?
In a few short years, your kids will be advocating for a better world while raising families of their own.
How do you change the world while also giving your kids the attention they deserve?
Show them it's possible to make a global impact and still enjoy your time together - before it's too late.
If you are ready to reclaim your agency…
This summer, discover the wild opportunities your existence creates for this world.
A 6-week virtual collective where we gather with like-minded caregivers who won't judge us for missing out on the latest protest - or the goldfish crumbs in our hair.
Our excuse to shut off social media, take a break from constant calls to action, and assess our bandwidth - while identifying the most impactful, joyful ways we can contribute to society.
Unlike single-issue workshops and parenting groups, we work together in small, intimate cohorts to set aside our judgement and stop taking on too much.
Through guided reflections, deep conversation, creative puttering, and lots of goofing around - we identify our skills and capacity and develop unique action plans to change the world without burning out.
Join us this summer if you're ready to stop spinning out and create the world your kids deserve.
"The people who belong here aren't exactly sure where they fit in - and what their next step should be. We care about showing up in the world in the way that creates most benefit and the least harm - rather than appearing perfect."
Tricia L, Community Organizer, Music Therapist & Parent of 5
You're ready to ramp up advocacy for your own community - and want to make space for intersectional, collaborative work without becoming a doormat.
You want to make space for others to shine, and are ready to set boundaries and start delegating so not everything falls on your shoulders alone.
Supporting everyone else has left you feeling exhausted and burnt out. You're ready to weaponize your privilege - while acknowledging your limits.
Release the assumptions keeping you from transforming intent into action.
Find the conspirators you work best with & clarify sustainable ways to show up for each other.
Develop recovery strategies for when shit hits the fan (‘cause it always does!)
Unlock the unique skills and interests only you can weaponize to make a deep impact.
Determine what reciprocity looks like for you. Learn to ask for help and create strong boundaries.
Tailor your own action plan to stay focused and inspired all year long.
Step-by-step guidance & check-ins every weekday.
24/7 Access to the member portal & video chat group
Friday Drop-In Hangouts: (optional)
1-3 pm Eastern
2-4 pm Central
3-5 pm Pacific
Limited spots available
One-time registration fee includes lifetime access to our annual 6-week Summer Caregiver Collective, including the member portal, and resource library. All members get the same support and access, regardless of ability to financially support the program.
I can comfortably meet all my basic needs.
Paying full price would not noticeably impact my ability to feed my kids, pay rent, or cover our medical expenses.
I stress about meeting basic needs but still regularly achieve them.
Paying full price would notably impact my ability to feed my kids, pay rent, and access healthcare.
I frequently stress about basic needs and don’t always achieve them.
Paying the middle cost would severely impact my ability to feed my kids, pay rent, and access healthcare.
Learn more about qualifying for the sliding scale. Membership is not transferable between the Summer & Winter Collectives.
Get free access to a extra perks throughout our collective. Once they're yours, access them any time - at your own pace.
I'm Ashia Ray (they or she), Head Custodian of Raising Luminaries, Founder of Books for Littles & Co-Founder of the Student Ignition Society and a bunch of other little projects. This here is my face.
In the Raising Luminaries community, we hold space for parents struggling to find a place where we can show up as our full selves.
Particularly those of us who don't fit into binary identities: multiracial, class migrants, nonbinary, 'but-you-don't-look-disabled'-disabled parents. And all the folks who have grown tired of moderate activism spaces but don't quite feel ready to lead a decolonizing salt march.
"I figured out which things I was pouring myself into - such as a DEI committee that drained my bandwidth for abysmally low impact - and how to redirect that energy into a high-impact task force that reformed gatekeeping in publishing for two major social psychology journals.
The summer accelerator gave me the building blocks and social support that I needed to identify and successfully accomplish something that I really wanted to do.
I figured out: what I really want to do, what I have the actual skill-set to do, and how to engage and get people to work together."
We do things differently here
“I was nervous that I wouldn’t have time to do everything. And I didn’t! But it turned out that it was fine for me to miss activities and to come to the live discussions when there were videos I hadn’t watched yet, because the collective explicitly says that there’s no such thing as being behind. There isn’t pressure to finish or perfect everything right now, this week, or this summer.
Instead, there’s the expectation that we will all circle back around with new insight in the future, so there are many chances to notice something you need to think about, plan, or do and to set that observation aside so you can pick it up again later.” – Jillian W.
The 2023 Summer Collective starts July 10th and lasts six weeks through August 18th. Enrollment opens in May.
Summers are busy! We assume each member will miss a week or two traveling, and that’s totally okay!
If you’ll be totally swamped for more than half of the session – sign up for the wait list and to learn about future collectives as they open up. You can unsubscribe anytime.
Enrollment opens to the public in May. If you’d like early access, join the wait list to get first dibs on our limited spaces.
In previous collectives, we’ve had members who had too much going on to engage in the group, but wanted access to the resources (and to lock in prices before next year’s increase.)
In which case – go for it! Feel free to lock in this year’s rates and start reviewing the resources at your own pace.
Since returning members have free lifetime access to later Summer Collectives, you can engage with us next year when things settle down.
“Between some big life changes and the pandemic, I’ve been stuck in a pattern of crisis triage followed by exhausted inertia for a while. I went into the accelerator hoping to clarify my vision for the future and formulate a plan of sustainable action.
After the collective – I’m 1000% clearer. Looking at opportunities through the lenses we discussed in the collective has helped me say no to tasks that someone else can do better.
I’m excited to free up bandwidth and time I would otherwise give away to the first person who asked – so I can spend it on objectives that matter to me.” – Tricia L.
If you’re worried you’re not ready – We have a no-risk refund guarantee, so try it out for a few weeks and see whether you enjoy hanging out with us. Alternatively – reach out to me with hesitations and concerns and I’d be happy to tweak the program to your concerns or recommend an alternative resource so you’ll be ready to join us next year.
Still curious?
Reconcile with your long lost lover - Find the hat you lost in 1998 (the one with the flaps) - Significantly change the shape of your body or the number of limbs attached to it - Get rid of that rash - Get your kids to stop leaving wet towels on the floor - Convince your housemate to unball their socks before throwing them in the hamper - Solve the energy crisis - Defund Moms for America - Abolish compliance therapy - Determine how to stealthily remove a wedgie in public - Finish those twelve books on your nightstand - Replace that irritating buzzing light in the kitchen - Become quadrilingual in 30 days or less - Convince your dad to stop sneezing so loud he scares the cat - exercise 'enough' - Convince jerks on the internet that they are wrong -
ENROLLMENT CLOSES IN:
Enrollment closes on July 7, 2023, or when we hit capacity – whichever happens first
Still not sure? Check out the full refund policy.
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