Join the Winter Incubator Caregiver Collective

• Any caregiver who ‘parents’ is welcome – particularly folks who are often excluded from traditional social justice spaces through supremacist heirarchies and binary gatekeeping.
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• Members are expected to have a cursory understanding of systemic oppression (ex: oppression is systemic, and we are all responsible for dismantling it), have the self-awareness to be mindful of social power and our individual and group privilege.
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• If you’re not sure whether you are welcome in this space, let me know what’s on your mind so that I can provide more information.

• “The people who belong here aren’t sure exactly where they fit in and what their next step should be – who care more about figuring out how to show up in the world in the way that’s the most benefit and the least harm than being perfect or having everything solved.”
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• – Tricia L.
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• Even if we would really benefit from gathering together – if you are so strapped for time or resources that you can’t meet the lowest end of our sliding scale or gather once a week for a live hangout – you’ve got more urgent problems to address at the moment!
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• So if you’re up to your neck in crisis – know we’ll be here next year ready to welcome you with open arms.
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• Otherwise –
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• This is not a 101-space, and most of us have done some reading, a bit of volunteering, and even some organizing. But if you *already know everything* about social justice and parenting, this is not the space for you.
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• We strive for accessible education – but if you’re looking for polite, restrained, inoffensive, and perfectly-executed conversations with elegance and poise – this is not for you.
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• We acknowledge our children hold different identities and challenges than us – so if you’re parent with privilege who co-opts the targeted identities of your children , partner(s), or friends for attention, clout, or pity – this is not the space for you. (This means you, Autism Warrior Moms and White Savior Parents).
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• We believe ALL kids are good kids, all family constellations as ‘normal’ – but if you call your family as ‘the gold standard’ and don’t think identity, particularly holding multiple targeted identities – impacts our day-to-day lives, this is not for you.
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• We hold strong values and love to share what we’ve discovered – but if you feel like you’re ‘winning’ life and have figured out the ‘right way’ to do activism, parenting, or being a human in the world – this is not for you.
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• We revel the opportunity to wear the ‘fancy’ earrings and our favorite sweater – but if you’re not comfortable with other members showing up messy and covered in applesauce, or have no patience for folks asking questions about things you’ve already figured out – this is not for you.
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• We call in with kindness – but if you’re looking for polished, refined, and 1-2-3 checklists of education from a ‘nice’ person of color who will blow smoke up your ass about what a good white person you are – this is not for you.

• Our 2024 Winter Incubator Collective starts in January and ends in February.
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• If these dates don’t work for you – join the wait list and I’ll let you know when future seasonal collectives are coming up. You can unsubscribe anytime.

• We’ll host six weekly live hangouts – where we can connect in real-time and have deeper conversations guided by our weekly topics.
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• I won’t let you overwork and then crash and burn. Expect to set aside 2-6 hours each week, depending on how deeply you’d like to engage.
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• The rest of the materials for each week come in the form of video messages and resource toolkits that you can check out at your own pace.
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• To connect with other members, we’re using the Marco Polo sharecast & group chat, an asynchronous video messaging app.
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• Which means we can to watch, re-watch, and reply to each other at our own pace, from anywhere – and any time – whether you want to spend 5 minutes a day, or more – is up to you.
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• Our resources and reflection process are designed to be revisited each year, or as needed to come back to and build upon what you’ve learned. So you’ll have lifetime access to the resources – which means you can’t fall behind.

• We’re gathering together because we feel like we’re constantly scrambling to keep up,  compelled to produce and go-go-go to uphold supremacy.
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• We’re not doing that here. There is no falling behind.
• The only commitment we ask is to show up for each other in our six weekly live hangouts. 
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• You’ll have year-round access to the resources and resource portal if you need to take a break and come back to it.

• We’ll have six live hangouts, an ongoing asynchronous video group chat, and a comments section to start discussions each day.
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• So – plenty of different ways to connect, and it’s normal to miss a hangout or two.
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• So as long as you can respond and share feedback once a week in a format that’s accessible for you, that’s how we show up for each other.

You’ll have online access to the portal all year-round, for as long as it exists – that means access to the live hangout recordings, scaffolding resources, and reflection activities so you can process them at your own pace.

• Our live hangouts are deeply interactive and not designed for passive consumption. We include 3-8 members in each cohort to build strong, interdependent relationships between the group. 
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• I tailor the resources for each collective to be accessible for every member’s accessibility needs and individual goals.
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• We grow through developing relationships and building trust – so it’s vital each member has ample time to share and show up for each other in our live hangouts.

• For folks who enjoy a real-time accountability check-in, we hang out on Zoom for 1-2 hours once a week on Fridays at 1pm, for six weeks, to discuss the reflections of the week.
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• I record the sessions and will send private links for folks who missed the hangout or would like to review it.
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• We use automatically generated live captions on Zoom and I send members transcripts from the video after our hangout.
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• Unfortunately we can’t afford a live ASL interpreter at this time.
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• For folks who find chatting with n ew friends stressful – we establish group norms and guided discussions to shape our time together. There is no need to perform, stay anything brilliant, or be charming 🙂
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• We’re aiming for cozy, we know kids will interrupt us. We can gather with warm mugs of tea or cocoa. Or Vodka in a mug, no judgement. Whatever works for you. Everyone has different ways of finding comfort in new spaces.

• For a 6-week collective, the enrollment fee is priced at a sliding scale starting at $1400 all the way down to $400 for multiply-targeted folks experiencing financial hardship.
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• Investing in deep work guided by disabled BIPOC is one way we distribute power, hold ourselves accountable, and participate in interdependent economics.
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• Your enrollment fee allows me to create accessible resources that tie this collective together. 
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• Of course you can cobble together and create your own resources, coordinate accountability group meetings, and figure this out on your own – but knowing what to cover, in what order, and orchestrating trust-building for an entire group of people with varying accessibility needs on your own can be confusing and frustrating.
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• Our collectives are designed to carry us together through a relationship-building process, building upon each week from start to finish. So you don’t have to spend your scarce time, energy, and mental bandwidth figuring out how to do it yourself and facilitating group conflicts. 
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• The actual cost to keep the collective sustainable is $1400 for each member, and memberships below that price are limited.
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• Please read the full sliding scale guide to see if you qualify for a lower cost.

Collective members get:

> Weekly video messages to kick off reflection & action

> Interactive downloadable discovery reflection guides

> Asynchronous voice, text, and video chat room to connect with members, share ideas, and ask questions

>  Weekly guided live hangouts to reflect, process, and break down integrating activism and parenting easy steps

> A 1-on-1 live collaboration & session with me (Ashia) to streamline & simplify your commitments and help you convert intention into action.

> 3 months access to the Luminary Brain Trust

> Follow-up seasonal check-ins to help you carry this work through the year

> A certificate of badassery after following through on the commitments you create for yourself.

> Year-round access to all the Winter Incubator resources in our online portal for as long as the portal exists.

• In the unlikely event that we’re WAY TOO POPULAR and get more than 8 members who want to join us, we can split a larger group into two smaller cohorts for live hangouts.
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• And you can always register now to save your spot, but then let me know if you’re willing to delay your membership until next year for anyone who needs to join us ASAP.
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• Most importantly – we need you to show up if you can to make this project a success so we can continue to offer it to folks in future years. So if you want to join us – DO IT!
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• If by our sixth week, you have engaged with the resources and reflections to the best of your ability, you’ve shown up to the live hangouts, and it’s still not for you, send me all of your completed discovery activities before the end of the collective, and I’ll send you a full refund.
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• Since there is such limited space in the incubator, I can’t offer refunds if you just don’t engage with the work or show up to the live hangouts, since that’s a limited space we can’t retroactively replace.
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• For more info, check out the full refund policy.

• The resources I provide for each member are designed to be accessed by a single person only.
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• If you’d like to join the collective with a friend or a group, create separate memberships for each individual.
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• If you can’t afford the cost of enrollment, that’s why I offer a sliding scale.
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• Sharing locked content is a violation of the terms & conditions (and it’s stealing).

Enrollment is closed for the 2023 collective, but join the waitlist and I’ll send you updates before enrollment opens for our upcoming seasonal collectives.