Ashia Ray [they/them]
Ashia Ray is the Head Custodian of Infodumpery at Raising Luminaries, helping caregivers juggle advocacy and care work without losing their marbles.
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DISMANTLING SUPREMACY SERIES
Who Has The Right To Set Boundaries?
Accountability group & family discussion prompts for raising the next generation of kyriarchy-smashers.
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Welcome to the Dismantling Supremacy Discussion Series
In this Collab Lab discussion series, we talk about supremacy culture and our responsibility to examine it within ourselves and our communities.
Connecting individual struggle & systemic inequality
Who Has The Right To Set Boundaries?
This work is best done in community: Join the Winter Incubator and Summer Luminator for space to work through this together.
In the Collab Lab, we’re working through how to release draining relationships and discussing Boundary Boss by Terri Cole (affiliate link) in the Radical Caregiver Book Club.
What if…
We already have boundaries, but some of us are taught to ignore them?
Shared Language:
- What are boundaries?
- What are porous* boundaries?
- What are rigid* boundaries?
*Check out the Friends From a Time Ago workshop for more
Growing up:
- Who had the right to create, name, and protect, their boundaries?
- When have we felt entitled to violate someone’s boundaries?
- What childhood experiences taught you whether you were allowed to have boundaries?
Individual Impact:
- How do you model setting and naming boundaries with your kids?
- What does it mean to ‘protect our boundaries’ in your family?
- Since ‘setting boundaries‘ is often twisted by abusers: How can you tell the difference between protecting your own boundaries and trying to control others’ behavior?
Systemic Impact:
- What boundaries do you set for yourself so you can show up for others in a healthy way?
- How do you manage your discomfort when those you have power over set new boundaries with you?
Commit to Action: Developing Policies, Skills & Practice:
- Which behavior from others sends you into a tailspin?
- Is it your responsibility to inform others that their behavior is unacceptable? If so – how can you do this in a way that keeps you safe?
- What response will you choose if they continue this behavior?
Relevant Resources
- Join the Winter Incubator – where we dig deeper into hustle culture and transform our approach from the inside out
- Join the Summer Luminator to identify the work that’s burning you out, create more effective ways to show up, and pace your activism, parenting, and career for deep impact.
- Friends From a Time Ago Collab Lab Workshop
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ACCOUNTABILITY
Raising Luminaries is rooted in the unceeded land of the Wampanoag & Massachusett People.
Land acknowledgements are worthless without action. So we prioritize amplifying Indigenous-lead resources in our toolkits and reciprocate with donations to the Wôpanaâk Language Reclaimation Project.
AFFILIATE DISCLOSURE
Ashia Ray & Raising Luminaries are participants in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program and the Bookshop.org Affiliate Program, affiliate advertising programs designed to provide a means for me to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com, Bookshop.com, and affiliated sites.
Photographs via Unsplash & Illustrations via Storyset, used with permission.
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