A choose-your-own-adventure starter map for scared parents learning how to resist threats to our communities.
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Choose Your Own Adventure Map
Are you a parent or educator who is having all kinds of FEELS right now because you or the people you care about are newly in danger under our current system?
Do you feel like ‘Gosh, it would be nice if someone could just hold my hand and walk me through what I’m supposed to do here?’
No worries! We got you.
How It Works
Feeling scattered and not sure where to start? Get grip and choose the next easiest action tailored to your personal energy level, social needs, and risk tolerance.
In this choose your own adventure map, you'll find:
Quick self-regulation practices so you don’t cause more harm when jumping in
5-minute actions you can take from home (even while baby-wearing and sleep-deprived)
Simple ways to connect with others doing the work so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel
Use this simple Oh Shit, What Now? flow chart to reference when panic hits and you need something to keep you moored
FAQ & Troubleshooting
You sure can!
Just be sure to share this page, rather than the PDF file itself, so they can get the most recent version.
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Who created this guide?
Tangled Roots Caregiver Collaborative
Alison Ledgerwood [she/her]
Alison is a behavioral scientist & professor at UC Davis collaboratively designing systems to support open and inclusive science.
Heartwood Handcrafts
Lena Hernandez [she/her]
Lena combines library management, research, and information curating magic to nourish activists and educators, often with delightfully silly (but also very accurate and ridiculously helpful) brain-foods.
Raising Luminaries
Ashia Ray [they/them]
Ashia Ray is the Head Custodian of Infodumpery at Raising Luminaries, helping caregivers juggle advocacy and care work without losing their marbles.
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