Ashia Ray [they/them]
Ashia Ray is the Head Custodian of Infodumpery at Raising Luminaries, helping caregivers juggle advocacy and care work without losing their marbles.
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DISMANTLING SUPREMACY SERIES
How do you weaponize innocence?
Accountability group & family discussion prompts for raising the next generation of kyriarchy-smashers.
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Welcome to the Dismantling Supremacy Discussion Series
In this Collab Lab discussion series, we talk about supremacy culture and our responsibility to examine it within ourselves and our communities.
Connecting individual struggle & systemic inequality
When have you excused ignorance as innocence?
This work is best done in community: Join the Winter Incubator and Summer Luminator for space to work through this together.
This month in the Radical Caregiver Book Club, we’re discussing Robin Bernstein’s Racial Innocence. (affiliate link)
What if…
Innocence is more about protecting those in power from acknowledging their complicity and agency than about protecting those most vulnerable?
Shared Language:
What does it mean to be innocent?
Growing up:
- Who got to claim ‘innocence?’
- Which characters in stories got to be ‘innocent’? How were they described?
- What childhood experiences taught you whether you were allowed to use innocence as an excuse for hurting someone?
Individual Impact:
- When have you chosen to protect someone’s innocence over educating them?
- When have you avoided open conflict to maintain the social power order?
Systemic Impact:
- Do you believe innocence should be a virtue in an inclusive our society?
Commit to Action: Developing Policy, Practice & Skills
- How are you examining our tendency to blame-the-messenger with your kids?
- How do you recognize the red flags of protecting innocence?
- New policy: In what specific relationships and situations will you choose to educate ‘innocent’ people?
Relevant Resources
- Join the Winter Incubator – where we examine the stories we grew up with and how it informs our bias and assumptions.
- Join the Summer Luminator to determine who you center, who you work with, and your specific role in smashing the kyriarchy.
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ACCOUNTABILITY
Raising Luminaries is rooted in the unceeded land of the Wampanoag & Massachusett People.
Land acknowledgements are worthless without action. So we prioritize amplifying Indigenous-lead resources in our toolkits and reciprocate with donations to the Wôpanaâk Language Reclaimation Project.
AFFILIATE DISCLOSURE
Ashia Ray & Raising Luminaries are participants in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program and the Bookshop.org Affiliate Program, affiliate advertising programs designed to provide a means for me to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com, Bookshop.com, and affiliated sites.
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