Ashia Ray [they/them]
Ashia Ray is the Head Custodian of Infodumpery at Raising Luminaries, helping caregivers juggle advocacy and care work without losing their marbles.
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DISMANTLING SUPREMACY SERIES
How Does Urgency Cloud Your Judgement?
Accountability group & family discussion prompts for raising the next generation of kyriarchy-smashers.
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Welcome to the Dismantling Supremacy Discussion Series
In this Collab Lab discussion series, we talk about supremacy culture and our responsibility to examine it within ourselves and our communities.
Connecting individual struggle & systemic inequality
How Does Urgency Cloud Your Judgement?
This work is best done in community: Join the Winter Incubator and Summer Luminator for space to work through this together.
In the Collab Lab, we’re tapping into the 10 Principles of Disability Justice via Sins Invalid
Shared Language:
- What is false urgency?
- What is crip time?
Growing up:
- Who had the right to pause and take their time?
- When have you felt entitled to an immediate decision or action?
- What childhood experiences taught you whether you were allowed to delay a decision, slow down, or pause the work you’re doing?
Individual Impact:
- How has false urgency prevented you from acting with compassion and care?
- When have you rushed unnecessarily – and caused harm to others as a result?
Systemic Impact:
How do you manage your discomfort when those around you aren’t panicking like you are?
Commit to Action: Developing Policy, Practice & Relationships
- Which situations cause me to freak out and rush?
- What red flags help me tell the difference between real and manufactured urgency?
- New policy: In what specific situation will I pause, delay, and wait moving forward?
What if…
…we choose our battles based on need & impact, instead of urgency?
Relevant Resources
- Join the Winter Incubator – where we re-examine our pacing and long-term goals of care work and advocacy
- Join the Summer Luminator to determine what is (and isn’t) within our lane so we can stay on track with our advocacy goals.
- How a sense of urgency upholds white supremacy culture, by Tema Okun.
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ACCOUNTABILITY
Raising Luminaries is rooted in the unceeded land of the Wampanoag & Massachusett People.
Land acknowledgements are worthless without action. So we prioritize amplifying Indigenous-lead resources in our toolkits and reciprocate with donations to the Wôpanaâk Language Reclaimation Project.
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