Ashia Ray [they/them]
Ashia Ray is the Head Custodian of Infodumpery at Raising Luminaries, helping caregivers juggle advocacy and care work without losing their marbles.
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DISMANTLING SUPREMACY SERIES
Do You Prioritize Self-Reliance Over Community Care?
Accountability group & family discussion prompts for raising the next generation of kyriarchy-smashers.
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Welcome to the Dismantling Supremacy Discussion Series
In this Collab Lab discussion series, we talk about supremacy culture and our responsibility to examine it within ourselves and our communities.
Connecting individual struggle & systemic inequality
Prioritizing Self-Reliance Over Community Care
This work is best done in community: Join the Winter Incubator and Summer Luminator for space to work through this together.
In the Collab Lab, we’re tapping into the 10 Principles of Disability Justice via Sins Invalid
What if…
Do-It-Yourself culture is more about showing off social capital, and less about exploring and enjoying our own agency?
Shared Language:
What is the difference between independence, dependence, and interdependence?
Growing Up:
- Who did the heroes in your childhood stories rely on?
- How did the adults in your life respond when other adults asked for help?
- What childhood experiences taught you who you were allowed to rely on?
Individual Impact:
- How has hyper-independence prevented you from caring for others?
- When have you resisted offers of support – and caused harm as a result?
Systemic Impact:
- How do you manage your discomfort when depending on others?
Commit to Action: Developing Policies, Skills & Practice:
- How do you model interdependence for your kids within your family?
- How do you recognize the red flags of hyper-independence?
- New policy: In what specific relationships and situations will you depend on others?
Relevant Resources
- Join the Winter Incubator – where we dig deeper into demolishing supremacist norms with anarchy calisthenics.
- Join the Summer Luminator to identify ways to contribute, amplify, or break advocacy, parenting, and career initiatives with enthusiasm and joy.
- Visit the Luminary Lesson Archives for our kid-centered curriculum unit on independence, interdependence, and dependence in community care.
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ACCOUNTABILITY
Raising Luminaries is rooted in the unceeded land of the Wampanoag & Massachusett People.
Land acknowledgements are worthless without action. So we prioritize amplifying Indigenous-lead resources in our toolkits and reciprocate with donations to the Wôpanaâk Language Reclaimation Project.
AFFILIATE DISCLOSURE
Ashia Ray & Raising Luminaries are participants in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program and the Bookshop.org Affiliate Program, affiliate advertising programs designed to provide a means for me to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com, Bookshop.com, and affiliated sites.
Photographs via Unsplash & Illustrations via Storyset, used with permission.
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