These seasonal collectives aren’t for you. They’re to help you care for others without burning out and becoming someone else’s problem.
If you keep setting yourself on fire to keep others warm, you’ll end up a crispy mess.
If you keep running on empty, you’ll let people down in catastrophic ways.
You’re already causing damage that you don’t even know about yet. But it’s not too late to change course.
Whether it’s your kids, those you show up for, or others who follow in your footsteps – you’re leaving vulnerable people who rely on you to deal with the consequences of showing up to run on fumes.
Everything Raising Luminaries creates (particularly our seasonal collectives) is to help progressive caregivers stop harming those they care for under the guise of performative activism, saviorism, and martyrdom.
Stop raising incels. Stop prioritizing comfort over community well-being. Stop doing saviorism, martyrdom, and performative busywork. Stop ignorantly upholding the kyriarchy.
If you only want to join us for the appearance of getting your shit together, then this isn’t the space for you. But if you genuinely wish to reorient how you show up for others from the roots up, invest the time it takes to be the change you want to see in the world.
While you have access to the member portal and all resources all year round, we host drop-in gatherings and optional chat groups for 12 weeks every winter, starting in December and continuing through February.
Life with kids can get chaotic; we all get sick, and many of our members are managing multiple disabilities.
Not only are you welcome to take what you need and leave the rest for next year (which you’ll be invited to at no cost) – you don’t need to wedge any live sessions into your schedule if you don’t have the time. Just drop in when you like to get the support you need.
While you’re invited to participate as little or as often as you like, you can also skip active sessions and join us again next year at no additional cost.
All of our gatherings are optional drop-in events. The concept of ‘missing’ a gathering doesn’t apply here.
We’re disrupting toxic hustle culture because scrambling to keep up, consume, and produce upholds the kyriarchy we’re fighting to dismantle.
But we’re not doing that here. With our cyclical approach to growth, there is no such thing as ‘falling behind’ in the Incubator.
Attending at least four of our live virtual gatherings may help you connect and develop supportive relationships. However, we also offer a 24/7 asynchronous chat group and written portal discussion threads for members who need accessibility support, play at a different pace, or can’t attend live gatherings.
We’ve designed the Winter Incubator specifically for overwhelmed caregivers. If you need to step away from active participation, you can defer to a future winter session at any time for no additional cost.
We don’t record our weekly drop-in sessions. Not worrying about being ‘observed’ helps our members share personal stories and challenges without feeling self-conscious.
If you’d like to leave personal messages in your cohort’s video chat group, these recordings last one year before being automatically deleted. You can remove your personal messages from the group anytime, no questions asked.
And at the end of the winter, we retire our videochat discussions to start fresh for our next session.
No need to perform, stay anything brilliant, or be charming. We have a ‘no itchy underpants’ rule where you’re encouraged to show up as you are, messy and wearing your coziest stained and threadbare pajamas.
We’re aiming for cozy and intimate conversations to get to know each other. Of course, our kids will interrupt us. We’ll make space for each other’s chaos, and our sessions are not recorded or shared beyond the group.
We use automatically generated live captions on Zoom. Unfortunately, we can’t afford a live ASL interpreter at this time.
Raising Luminaries
Igniting the next generation of kind & courageous leaders